The first time I was to meet up with my boyfriends parents was during their family Christmas party. Although I knew him rather well, we were new to dating, and I wanted to make a good impression. At the same time though I wanted to be myself, without feeling uncomfortable around them. I wanted them to like me for me, and I am a unique person. During my family holiday parties I usually arrive with Christmas lights on my head, and glitter on my body. I like sticking out, I like being unique, it's just part of who I am.
I wondered though if being myself so soon around his family would have them thinking I were some kind of weirdo, a freak even.
I knew I had to dress down, but I didn't want to make it so I did not
feel like me. If I were uncomfortable around them, likely they would be
uncomfortable around me, and a relationship would be harder to
Most of my jeans were skin tight, so I knew I had to pass on the
jeans. I also knew most of my shirts were skin tight with freaky sayings
on them, holes, or glitter logos.
I knew I had to shop for something different, something more casual, but dressy at the same time.
I went with a pair of black dress slacks, and a simple red sweater
with a long flowing turtle neck. It looked festive, I was comfortable,
and the bright blood red color of the sweater was me, without being the
overboard unique me.
If you are naturally a creative person, and you will be meeting the
boyfriends parents this upcoming holiday, skip out on the skimpy
clothing, and leave the cute doll house shoes at home. Although you may
not under-dress normally make sure you look presentable.
When it comes to makeup, keep things as you normally would, just tone
it down a bit. If you are heavy on the eyeliner normally, then tone it
down a bit by adding only a small amount of it. If you are one who likes
bold colors, tone it down to more neutral colors. When doing your
makeup though, make sure your usual style shines through but not as
If you are one who wears a ton of bracelets, necklaces and facial
piercings, remove them all. You can leave a few small pieces that are
your favorites, and possibly a nose ring, other than that though skip
out on the rest.
The rule is to basically dress comfortably, without diminishing your
actual fashion sense. You don't want to go overboard in the normal
department because eventually you will see more of them, and you cannot
become something you are not every time you see them. You want people to
like you for who you are, not for what you wear.